Confidence – Remember the Good Times

Thursday 8th December 2022

Remember the Good Times

Confidence is a very influential component for getting lucky. Here is another simple technique taken from my book Get Lucky Now that you can practice to attract more confidence into your life.

As with most things in life, it will require some preparation and effort on your part. However, when compared with the size of the glittering prize out there, it will be one of the best investments you have ever made.

A powerful starting point is to make this commitment. Write it down; you are much more likely to keep to it. Say it aloud, too, with conviction.

“From this moment forward, I will remember every good thing that happens to me.”

Don’t trust your memory

Unfortunately, most people have a brilliant memory of all the things that have gone wrong in their lives but struggle to think of the many things that went right.

So when somebody says something complimentary to you, revel in the simple pleasure for a second or two longer than you ordinarily would before allowing that memory to slip into your unconscious mind. If you can do this several times a day for a month, there will be a subtle change in your brain chemistry and outlook on life. You will notice the difference. Those closest to you will notice it more.

Turn up the volume with an anchor

You can enhance this effect by subtly giving your brain another push in the right direction. When you have one of these pleasurable experiences, make sure that the memory is easier to retrieve by associating it with a physical anchor. This is the memory equivalent of underlining or highlighting a statement in an article.

Some people press their thumb and forefinger together to reinforce a happy memory. Others touch their ear or brush their pants. Spend some time choosing your anchor. It should be discreet, but, most important, it should feel right.

Adopt this practice for a month, and chances are that you will continue in the future. These anchors will become seamless and automatic parts of your life.

Get a bigger anchor

Once you have mastered this technique, you will be ready for an advanced anchoring technique. This can be very powerful, but it requires you to be in a relaxed mental state for the best results.

Think of when you were deeply experiencing flow. Whatever it was that you were doing, it felt very easy, natural, and relaxed. At that time, you felt that you could do no wrong. You probably wished that you could bottle that special feeling so that you could take it away and then reproduce it in the future whenever you needed it most.

The following technique does not require a bottle, but it can help you to enter your flow state a lot easier and quicker than you ordinarily would.

Live in the past

Take your thoughts back to this special occasion and use your memory to add some detail to the picture of this event in your mind. Where were you? What was the date? Who were you with? What clothes were you wearing? Do you remember any of the conversations with others? What other details can you add to this event?

When you are ready, take your time and answer this special question: In only one word, how would you describe your feeling on this special day?

Then answer this next question: If the special word had a color, what would it be?

Now we come to the most important question: How can you use this word and color to remind yourself of this special day when you were experiencing flow, so that when you need to reproduce the same mental state in the future, you will be able to do so just as easily?

Confidence is a huge subject and therefore is included in my NLP coaching programs. More information can be found here – https://drstephensimpson.com/techniques/nlp/